It was getting hot in the closet. So I got out.

In today's post I'm going to talk about a very difficult chapter in my life. Coming out. Coming out of what? The closet, yes I'm gay (is it a surprise by now?) And what I want to achieve in this post is to maybe give some tips or help to some teens who are struggling with a very fragile and complicated thing that can change your life. So, how did I come out? I did it in a very wrong way. I told my sister, and i should have known better because throughout my life she would constantly deceive me and tell all my secrets to my parents. So why would I tell her? Well she actually brought it up while I was visiting at my grandmothers house, she just mentioned people who are gay in general (not in a bad way or anything, I can't really remember it) And it plucked a string in me, and i started to breakdown. That barrier that I usually keep up with a big steel door with hundreds of locks on it, all came tumbling down and in a moment of false security I told her. And as she usually did she put on a nice face, pretended she had some compassion and tried to get as much information as possible. And as usual I told her just enough and more fore her to get me in trouble with my parents, and boy was there trouble. My father (who is European) Completely over-reacted. He went off on some crazy rant about Europe and how a man must marry a woman and have children etc. etc. (and what I found a little funny was at the end of the 'conversation' was he said ''FINE! if you want to take it up the ass that's fine!'' and he stormed out, it was so hard not snicker) My mother on the other hand took very well, it was almost creepy. I wasn't expecting her to be so comfortable with it, but I'm glad she did of course. (me and her are very close and open about it) And I guess the main reason my father was really mad was because i didn't tell him FIRST so if I could give one piece of advice it would have to be: tell your parents first. It may seem like an impossible task and it is probably one of the scariest things you will do in your entire life. But it is worth it, and no matter what they will love you, because they're your parents. And if it starts to get a little out of hand just calm them down and tell them that it wasn't your choice, your not blaming them but tell them that you are born that way so you haven't changed since you where born and they loved you then so they should continue to love you. (and they will) Another important thing is friends. And this is something that will determine who your real friends are. Your real friends will stick with you and support you in this difficult time. So I encourage all of my readers who are in the closet to come out and be proud of who you are. Oh i almost forgot I also wanted to touch on Valentine's day or as I like to call it, singles awareness day. But the best way to get through it is friends, go hang out, go shopping, get together, have a sleep over whatever. But what ever you do try to stay out of the V-day blues. There will always be a way to find that special someone and just because a bunch of company's chose a day to make single people feel terrible doesn't mean you have to suffer through it. Get some martini's and have a good time. (OH! and my friend just started her own blog go check it out at: http://x-vee-x-x.blogspot.com/ its pretty good and its her first post so be nice guys :P)