Tuesday, February 16, 2010

How to deal...or take. the break-up.


Good after noon Internet. With Valentine's day over (or singles awareness day, as i so affectionately call it.) I thought it would be a good time to talk about break-ups. We all have to deal with one, either on the receiving end or you the one dealing it. It can be VERY awkward and heartbreaking and painful. And in the end both of you will most likely be sad, or regretting something you did in the relationship. Today, I plan on Talking about the ominous break up. So, first things first. Where do you do it? It may seem obvious that you should NEVER do it over the phone or through e-mail or text, but you would be surprised at how many people still do it, most likely because they re afraid of something like your reaction or how the situation will end so they choose to cut off connection with you. With a connection. If you plan on doing this whatever you do, DON'T do it! it's just a very bad idea. Think about it. A good idea to do it in a place that, isn't very busy. (So the to-be-ex won't feel embarrassment in front of other people and they will most likely be more understanding instead of causing a scene.) Another wise thing to do is to NOT do it at one of your ''places'' this meaning a place which has sentimental value to both of you (for example: a park where you always met) because this place may have held a new beginning it would be terrible if it held a terrible end. So, now that you've found a place its time for another important aspect of dealing the break up is the timing. You (obviously) don't want to do it when your to-be-ex is happy and on top of the world. Or when he or she is feeling terrible. So pick a time that is neutral, it might be wise to do it lightly. Talk calmy, and don't be hostile and try to sound like ''its not you its me.'' A piece of advice if your on the receiving end of the break up is to just be calm. You have to understand that sometimes things ao be. And think of this: If you really loved them wouldn't you rather they be happier with someone else than feel constricted in the current relationship? It may or may not have been you but sometimes people arnt meant to be together. So the best thing to do is move on, when you dwell on the past you just become more and more depressed. That's all for today world. I hope many relationships stay strong and healthy. (If you need further advice feel free to drop me an email at: pascal_blogger@hotmail.com also I was kinda hesitant to release this post because I was very tired while doing it, So it may not be my best work -X.oxo Pascal.

1 comment:

  1. <3 it!
    u r really good at blogging....where r u today? business is boring without ppl to talk to :/

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